For folks that are in the later stages of life, life can be stressful and overwhelming. Over time, an individual could lose a spouse, close friends, his or her health, the ability to drive, and the ability to live independently. By the same token, an increasing number of adult children feel squeezed between the needs of both their parents and their children.
While there are no easy answers for the elderly or their caregivers, there are some things that can be done to make the golden years easier for all concerned.
o Take time to hear and record family stories. Doing this not only carries on those histories in the family, but allows the teller to feel honored to be asked and listened to.
o Include all parties in any discussion about concerns or future plans. As the years roll by, a big part of elder distress is the sense of loss of control.
o If there is a concern about medical conditions, behaviors or a state of mind, gather a lot of information. Using a search engine like Google is a terrific way to find answers to questions.
o If you are a caregiver, it is important to practice a version of the golden rule: Do unto yourself as you would do unto others. You can only be a good caregiver if you take time to ensure your own well-being.
o It's OK for all parties to set limits as to what you can and will do and what you cannot. To ignore this frequently leads to misunderstandings and burn-out.
o Find a support group. If you are an elder or caregiver, there are people just like you that get together to support, inform and reassure each other.
o Consult with a Counselor. They can work with the elderly and their families to reduce anxiety, provide emotional support, and look at strategies that can improve everyone's life.
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